Let’s Couple
Well, there’s an invitation you don’t see every day! While that term can hold a―shall we say―more adventurous meaning, I want to talk with you today about simple ways to keep the magic going with your significant other. I know, I know, this seems the sort of post more appropriate for Valentine’s Day, and I’m certainly not Dear Abby, but hell, winter is coming, and we should never pack all our romantic feelings up and pour them into one day a year, right?
Life gets busy, between work, kids, social commitments, and striving to make this world a better place to live in. We need to carve out any spare time we can to maintain that spark with our beloved, especially if we’ve been with said beloved for many years. It’s easy to get comfortable once we’ve found our “one” in this life, but that doesn’t mean we stop trying to win them over. Any small gesture or special routine can keep that magic flowing, and we could all use a lot more magic in our lives.
Okay, then. Let’s do this!
Coffee in bed
Ahhh, what’s better than lounging under the covers and having your love bring you a steaming cup of brew, made just the way you like it, followed by meaningful conversation? Okay, there are other things under the covers that can be better, but focus, people! I swear, it’s like you’re a bunch of 18-year-olds! And, yes, I realize coffee, conversation, and being in bed can also lead to that better activity, so there you go. Are you happy now?
Doing the crossword puzzle together
Why not stimulate each other’s minds by working through the daily crossword? It can happen over that cup of coffee, or reading the clues over your lover’s shoulder as you massage the tension out of said lover’s shoulders. It’s an enjoyable way to spend some moments together.
Reading comic books on a Sunday morning
Now there’s a fun tradition! Your work week is over, and before getting into another weekend project or social visit, you take some time to chill out in the same room, reading different comic books while sipping your favorite beverage. Catching up with your superheroes sparks your creative mind, which can lead to lively conversation with your partner about everything from your hero’s quest, their costume, or even how difficult it must be to maintain a dual-identity. We need to keep in contact with our inner children. They love to play together!
Enjoying a nooner
Alright, I’ll will acquiesce and give you folks what you’ve been longing for since reading this week’s title: Sex! Yes, most of us know what a “nooner” is, and many have likely enjoyed one or three in their time. For those of you not in the know, a nooner happens when you specifically take time out of a busy workday to meet your love at a predetermined spot and remind each other what proper coupling is all about. Or, even better, you get to surprise your love with the spur-of-the-moment offer of a nooner, which can be infinitely more exciting. Phew! Is it getting hot in here?!
Texting
Yeah, I know. Aren’t we already glued to our phones every day, for any number of reasons? Can’t we just get a break from screen time? I get that, but don’t think of your device as the enemy here. Let’s use it for a more meaningful purpose.
It takes very little time to send a quick note or string of specific emojis to your partner, to let them know you’re thinking of them, even during a busy/stressful day. Hell, sending these little love texts will put a dreamy smile on your face and help to relieve some of that stress.
In addition to love notes, courteous texts also help to keep the magic alive. When you text to say you’re on your way home, or with any number of updates, you’re letting your person know that you care enough to keep them informed. Sure, it seems simple, and it is, but it also means a lot.
Play with each other.
Seriously, get your minds out of the bedroom people! I’m talking about other playtime, here. It could be literal games, such as Rummy or Yahtzee, where you keep an ongoing scoresheet over the years. It’s so much fun to look back and remember where you were during those matches.
Other playful things are more romantic, like hiding love notes in places you know your partner will stumble across them during their daily routine.
How about having a date day? You know, taking a drive in the country, going to a movie in the middle of the afternoon, or any number of activities you both enjoy, and that you both put off because of some obligation or other. It’ll help rekindle that spark, fan the flames, and keep the fire burning.
And it appears I’ve burned through the attention span you’ve been kind enough to allot to me each week. I hope this little piece has inspired you to find ways to keep your own magic alive. If so, you are entirely welcome. Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to go make some coffee 😉
Until next week, carve some time out for yourselves, and whatever you are, like a proper loving couple, be a good one.
-Dave
